So I got married very young. I was with my wife from the time I was 18 up until our divorce a year ago (I'm now 35). As such, I managed to miss out on this whole "internet dating" thing that the kids are all talking about...until the last year. AOL chatrooms were about as close as I got to online dating and, quite frankly, it never would have even dawned on me to meet those people. I kinda wish that I'd kept that attitude sometimes.

I'm actually writing a book on the topic, talking about some of the best, and worst experiences that I've had in just the short time I've been at it. I've met boring people, crazy people, ex cons, people looking to cheat on their spouses, and I even managed to pick up a crazy-stalker type (long story short, after nearly a year I finally got her to stop emailing me - mind you we never met - only by sending a cease and desist letter I got off the internet).

So with more bad experiences than good, I got to thinking...why in the hell is it that it seems that everyone who has online dating has met, likely, several crazy types that they would never even have looked at in real life? Not just because of their looks, but because of everything about them: their job, their hobbies...whatever! What online dating has done, as a microcosm of the internet as a whole, is brought the entire world closer together. I'm now interacting with people that I NEVER would have been in touch with in my normal life...fetishists, polyamorous types, crazies...these aren't people that I would have run into or interacted with in my day to day, yet in the relatively confined spaces of a dating website, I see them ALL...and I find them interesting enough at first glance that I'm even ok chatting with them...

So what do you lot think - is my theory a sound one? Is the reason that so many people have total psycho crazy terrifying online dating stories simply because it's the merging of different worlds thanks to the magic of the internet? Or is it something more widespread...is it just that humanity as a whole has a much higher percentage of "alternative" or "crazy" types?

I would like to add that I am not judging anyone's lifestyle here. While I don't particularly care for the concept of polyamory, for example, if it works for you - more power to ya! Prior to online dating I didn't even know it existed, which I think is kindof the point I'm trying to get at....

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